Do No Harm…

“It was so traumatic!”

The woman was describing to her mentor a situation in which she had ended up in a heated debate with several of her work colleagues.  Although the mentor could see that it had indeed been an upsetting, frustrating, and intense encounter for the client, she did find herself wondering about the use of the word ‘traumatic.’ Was this the mentoree’s actual experience, or just a bit of hyperbole?

The man sat trembling in front of his mentor.  That morning he had visited a member of his congregation in hospital, and had experienced an unexpected and overwhelming sense of  impending disaster. He found himself desperately wanting to get out of there as soon as he possibly could.  He couldn’t quite understand why his physical reaction had been so overwhelming – and why he still felt on high alert. After all, the congregation member was expected to make a full recovery. “I’m just over-reacting… it’s nothing really…”  The mentor wasn’t sure what to think – it certainly did seem like an over-reaction, but looking at the trembling man in front of him, he knew that something serious was going on.

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Evaluating Your Mentoring

By Sally Jones

Regularly evaluating your mentoring can be of great benefit to both those you are mentoring and yourself as a mentor. How often do you take some time out to consider how you are growing as a mentor? What skills might need a bit of polishing, or strengths could you intentionally build on? The skill and process of evaluation is something we are very likely helping our mentorees to implement in some area of their own lives, so it is important that we do the same.

I would suggest three areas to consider – each of which can be done immediately after a mentoring session, as well as on a regular monthly, quarterly and/or yearly basis. Following are just a few of the questions you might ask yourself: Continue reading “Evaluating Your Mentoring”