Motivation for Christian Mentoring

By Rick Lewis

Much about mentoring can be learned along the way. There is no need to have everything right before you start. However, motivation is one of those matters that do need to be examined before you begin, and regularly reviewed as you go along. Although this self-examination is a confronting business, it is necessary for mentors to get their hearts in tune with the Spirit of God if they expect to be used by him to bring benefit to others through mentoring. So, what motivated you to get into mentoring? For most of us, the reality is a mix of noble and base motivations. We may wish it were not so, but there is no use pretending. Having acknowledged that, it befits mentors to propagate the noble motivations and weed out the base ones.

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The Lost Art of Lingering by Rowland Forman

I’m delighted to let you know that The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation, which captures a lot of what God has been teaching me over the last 5 years, is now available through e-books (Kindle), paperback via Confia Publishers (a less expensive option for those in the USA) http://www.confiapublishers.org/the-lost-art-of-lingering.html, or Amazon. For those in New Zealand or Australia, it’s probably better to order through me (postage will be much cheaper). My wife Elaine is handling the orders. Contact her at ejform@gmail.com and she’ll send you a copy with an invoice. We should have books available in a week.

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Announcing our 2013 Mentoring Forum

Traction for
Transformation

Digging below the surface to what makes mentoring work

You are invited to join us in Melbourne on Wednesday 17th and Thursday 18th April for the 2013 Christian Mentoring Network Forum.  Following the interest in last year’s forum we decided to focus on this year on specific skills and equipping for mentors to deepen their mentoring relationships.  Some of the highlights will be: Graeme Cann reflecting on the practice of mentoring, Keith Farmer and Mark Conner sharing insights from their mentoring relationship, Sandy Jones teaching on effective mentoring arising from appraisals, Rick Lewis and Tim Dyer teaching from their experience on practices and skills to give mentoring traction in the lives of others. Continue reading “Announcing our 2013 Mentoring Forum”

Stop Well to Go Well – Mentoring Forum

The Tops Conference Centre, Sydney, 9-11 May
Registrations now open REGISTER

“There is a rhythm of created life which ensures a greater chance of sustainability and ongoing well being if we explicitly replenish regularly our spiritual, emotional, intellectual and physical batteries.  Through my role as a mentor to Christian leaders in the last 6 years I have become aware that one of major threats to ongoing leadership within Australian Christianity and churches is burnout – and its key symptom of emotional exhaustion.” Rev Dr Keith Farmer
 
If you share this concern for Christian leaders in Australia and feel God has gifted and placed you to support and mentor Christian leaders then you are invited to the Mentoring Network Forum.  If you are sensing this is an area where God is leading you and you want to learn more, or whether you are an experienced mentor and want to learn from peers then this Forum is the place to be.

ABOUT THE KEYNOTE SPEAKER
MINDY CALIGUIRE
Mindy is the founder of Soul Care, a spiritual formation ministry, and Director of Transformation Ministry for the Willow Creek Association. She has worked on staff at Willow Creek Community Church, been part of a church-planting team, is a contributing editor for Conversations Journal, and also serves as a frequent speaker and leadership consultant, working with both churches and organizations. Regardless of venue, Mindy enjoys mentoring Christian leaders – giving special focus to re-establishing their spiritual vitality as the primary step toward a lifestyle of sustainable ministry and leadership. She is the author of the Soul Care series include Discovering Soul CareSpiritual FriendshipSoul Searching and Simplicity, as well as Write for Your Soul: The Whys and Hows of Journaling, with her husband, Jeff Caliguire.

 

Other presenters:
Rev Dr Keith Farmer The Mentoring Network
Dr Rick Lewis The Mentoring Network
Rev Les Scarborough John Mark Ministries
Andrew McCafferty Willow Creek Australia


Mentoring in 5 key areas

by Keith Farmer

The role of the Christian leader, particularly the role of leading a local church, is one of the most diverse and difficult vocations in our society. The pressures and stresses of Christian leadership have led many to abandon ministry, and in some cases to abandon church and faith altogether.

My personal experience as a leader and mentor has led me to conclude that although the skills of ministry leadership are important, character issues are even more important. Effective ‘doing’ comes out of effective ‘being’. What we do is based on who we are. Effective transformational leadership over an extended period of time depends deeply on the Christian character of the leader. If character unravels under pressure, then ministry leadership is severely and adversely affected.

Mentoring is therefore an ongoing relationship of choice on the part of both the mentor and the mentoree. It is the equivalent of the GP medical checkup that is designed to monitor the vital signs for ongoing health. It monitors 5 key areas of the leader’s wellbeing:

  • Spirituality (how are you and God?)
  • the health of key relationships (how is your relationship with ???),
  • emotional health (how are you coping with workload, ministry, people, conflict, staff relationships, how is your level of emotional exhaustion – give me a 1 – 10 score)
  • general lifestyle health (are you sleeping well, eating well, getting time off, how was your last day off?, last retreat day?)
  • vulnerabilities (what vulnerability at present could the evil one exploit to take you out of ministry?).

The key qualifications required for a mentor of Christian leaders is that the person has had significant experience as a Christian leader themselves (probably at least 10 years and preferably longer), and that they are still in good shape i.e. they still love God, their family, the Church and people in general.

Christian leadership is such a personal and multi skilled vocation that I would suggest the Mentoree also has a Coach (for what they do), and that they are strongly embedded in a ‘Ministry Leaders Support Group’ where honesty is fostered by each confessing – “I am a pastor” etc.

My experience tells me that Mentoring is best seen as having a “Relational” emphasis where the mentoree is asked – “How are you going?” – and he or she is able to talk about whatever is on their heart and mind. It then gradually evolves into the Mentor checking, through pertinent questions, each of the 5 key areas mentioned above.

The regularly, length, mode and place of mentoring have many options! I find 4 or 5 contacts per year each of 2 hours for an individual and 3 hours for a couple works well for most leaders.

Mentoring overlaps with, but is not synonymous with pastoral care, counselling, coaching, and supervision. I believe at its heart mentoring is basically about discipling and is vital for Christian faith as well as leadership.

Mentoring Network Training in 2012

We invite you to participate in a three day retreat offering two streams of mentor equipping:

  • A peer-learning Forum for experienced Christian mentors
  • Introductory training for those sensing a call to this ministry

9-11 May at The Tops Conference Centre, Sydney, NSW


The Tops Conference Centre
Speakers include: Mindy Caliguire, Les Scarborough, Keith Farmer, Andrew McCafferty and Rick Lewis
Cost: $295 includes registration, accommodation, meals and transfers from nearby Helensburgh railway station

Mark the dates in your calendar now!

For further information please contact us

Email: info@mentoringnetwork.org.au
Phone: +61 7 3291 5956
Post: The Mentoring Network
c/- Willow Creek Australia
PO Box 2086
Mansfield BC, QLD, 4122