Endorsement of a ministering person in Churches of Christ in Queensland requires the completion of a 2 year Personal and Professional Formation Plan which involves a commitment to 3 goals and for these to be reflected in specific plans in 8 different areas. Through the year each ministering person meets several times with a companion who helps them to revisit their stated goals and reflect on how they are going with their commitments in each of the 8 areas.
Companions are encouraged to use questions that will help the conversation to go to a deeper level and invite a visiting of any resistances, struggles, arising issues in each area as well as any new empowerments and freedoms.
A six-year-old boy called Nathan asks his father why his mum is crying.
“Because you boys have been naughty” the father responds, referring to the boy and his younger brother.
Nathan immediately feels terrible that his behaviour has caused his mother such distress. Somehow the message goes deep into his soul that he is responsible for the feelings of others. He must NEVER behave in a way that will upset others like that!
When you sing you begin with Do Ray Mi. When you mentor, you can begin with these nine things.
One question I am asked often is “How do I begin mentoring?” Here are a few hints for you, so that you can begin well. Feel free to follow them or ignore them as you need. As you get going you can find further ideas on this website or through the ACMN Facebook page found at https://www.facebook.com/AusCMN/
Emotions in themselves are not susceptible to moral evaluation; they simply are what they are, neither wrong nor right. Yet it’s important to track emotions in Christian mentoring. There are several reasons for this.
It has been great to catch up with folk at the Mentoring Seminars we have been running this week in Sydney and Adelaide. Rick and Sally were hosting the Sydney Event and Tim was in Adelaide. We all appreciated Keith Farmer’s reflections on emotional health and mentoring. Steve Smith complemented the input in Sydney and Tony Ling contributed in Adelaide, both from their own research. If you attended the seminar and are looking for some reproducible copies of the handouts for use in mentoring please follow the links below. Continue reading “Emotionally Healthy Mentoring Seminars 2018”
I am firmly convinced that Christian mentoring necessarily involves helping a person consciously, deliberately and freely move from their present state of affairs to what, in God’s eyes, is a better state of affairs. That, in turn, necessarily involves the person having a clear idea of where they are, where God is calling them to be, and developing a desire to make the move forward.
But what about when a mentoree sets out on that journey to where they believe God is calling them to be and the process of change falls over? How can a mentor help to discern what is going on and why things are not progressing as first imagined? How can a mentor be a facilitator of positive change?